Having been present for the end of life and death of both my husband Steve and my Dad Bryan, I realised how unequipped I was to manage with the day to day dealings and care of my loved ones. I felt I was much more prepared with my dad but still there were times when I felt out of my depth. Steve and I planned his funeral but there were still aspects that I wished I could have changed with more knowledge. We also knew my Dad’s funeral wishes and Mum and I laid him out, filled his coffin with herbs and flowers from the garden, he was with us in the house for several days whilst paperwork was finalised and with my brothers we buried him on his land. In the past there would have been people in our community who offered support and advice and I believe that this should be available in our modern world.
I have undertaken some initial training to become an End of Life Doula but after much thought have decided not to continue to qualify as an EOL Doula. What I am drawn to and will continue to do is to talk about Death and Dying, it will happen to us all and our families/friends and how prepared are we for this event?
In Anam Cara – Spiritual wisdom from the celtic world by John O’Donohue he talks of a presence that walks the road of life with you, it shadows your every thought & feeling. It came out of the womb with you & although this presence surrounds you, you may still be blind to its companionship. The name of this presence is death. We must remember that this is the death of our body & our soul continues the cycle. It is really another part of the journey, as important as our birth.
Are you or a loved on receiving palliative care and moving towards the end of life?
Companion Voices are singers based in the UK who gather to learn songs and prepare themselves to sing for people at the end of life. We share our voices, compassion and loving presence, whether in person or virtually, when called upon to do so.
We have come together to create a group of Companion Voices in Herefordshire. We feel drawn to sharing beautiful, simple songs from many traditions at the bedside of those who are soon to die. We are not a choir and its not a performance, more like an immersive gentle experience to bring comfort, peace and a sense of being held.
This service is free to all
For more information please get in touch
Call 07904111334 or 07791740887
or Email: email@example.com
We accept donations to support us with this work which is all done on a voluntary basis.
For more information on Companion Voices please go to the website www.companionvoices.org
With my qualifications, I am able to offer for those dying and loved ones
- Yoga, Meditation, Breathing Techniques to help bring peace and comfort
- Soundscapes -being bathed with sounds from Himalayan singing bowls and gongs for deep relaxation.
- Aromatherapy, beautiful aromas and skincare products to feed the senses and look after the skin
- Reflexology massage for hands and feet to gently relax and soothe.
Please get in touch if you require these services 07904111334
There is a movement to offer End of life care and support called End of Life Doulas/ Death Doulas/Soul Midwives, these wonderful people offer so much to the person dying and their loved ones and I would highly recommend employing their services.