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Having been present for the end of life and death of both my husband Steve and my Dad Bryan, I realised how unequipped I was to manage with the day to day dealings and care of my loved ones.  I felt I was much more prepared with my dad but still there were times when I felt out of my depth.  Steve and I planned his funeral but there were still aspects that I wished I could have changed with more knowledge.  We also knew my Dad’s funeral wishes and Mum and I laid him out, filled his coffin with herbs and flowers from the garden, he was with us in the house for several days whilst paperwork was finalised and with my brothers we buried him on his land.  In the past there would have been people in our community who offered support and advice and I believe that this should be available in our modern world.

I have undertaken some initial training to become an End of Life Doula but after much thought have decided not to continue to qualify as an EOL Doula.  What I am drawn to and will continue to do is to talk about Death and Dying, it will happen to us all and our families/friends and how prepared are we for this event?

Life and Death Matters

Enjoy your life! Remember that our wonderful life is finite and just as there was a beginning with our birth, there will be an end with our death. Sometimes it’s not always easy to talk about this subject with our loved ones but ultimately it is important that they know what our wishes are, especially if we become unable to express them. Join me for a series of free discussion groups focusing on Life & Death Matters at The Hub, St Peters Church, Peterchurch HR2 0RT.

Saturday 24th September 10am-12pm
Advance Statement is a document that states all the things that are important to you and planning so you can live the life you want until you die. It’s a written statement that sets down your preferences, wishes, belief and values regarding your future care and can be done at any stage of your life. I found writing an advance statement for myself was a very life affirming practice, it helped me realise the important people and things in my life and what gives me meaning in life. I will be suggesting some areas for contemplation and also resources so you can complete an Advance Statement.
The café will be open if you fancy a cuppa or breakfast butty.

Saturday 22nd October 10am -12pm
Advance Decision to Refuse Treatment (ADRT) and Lasting Power of Attorney (LPA)
What do these mean?

ADRT is a legal document stating your end of life choices regarding treatment and interventions.

LPA is a legal document that allows another person the legal authority to make
healthcare and/or financial decisions on your behalf.

I will go into detail about these legal documents and resources you can use to access them.
The café wont be open.

Saturday 26th November 10am-12pm
Funerals, Cremations & End of Life Celebrations – We have so many choices but don’t always know what they are. Simon Lockett our Rural Pioneer Priest will be joining me to discuss our choices for ourselves or loved ones. This is an opportunity to really talk freely about what you would like without being judged or pushed in a different direction.
The café will be open if you fancy a cuppa or breakfast butty.

With my qualifications, I am also able to offer for those dying and loved ones

  • Yoga, Meditation, Breathing Techniques to help bring peace and comfort
  • Soundscapes -being bathed with sounds from Himalayan singing bowls and gongs for deep relaxation.
  • Aromatherapy, beautiful aromas and skincare products to feed the senses and look after the skin
  • Reflexology massage for hands and feet to gently relax and soothe.

Please get in touch if you require these services 07904111334

There is a movement to offer End of life care and support called End of Life Doulas/ Death Doulas/Soul Midwives, these wonderful people offer so much to the person dying and their loved ones and I would highly recommend employing their services.

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